“Becoming”: Releasing

Lightening our load, releasing our burdens, freeing ourselves to seek our destiny is all a part of being “Becoming”.  Yesterday I outlined a strategy for you to develop your own ‘casting plan’. 

None of us need to weigh ourselves down with emotional baggage. We don’t have to carry the burden of our worries. Nor must we submit to the bondage of fear, self doubt or loathing. 

After several days of intense study on casting our cares, we’ve learned that God is willing to release us from all of it. By taking all of our anxiety and concerns upon Himself.

So what exactly are your cares? They are different for each and every one of us, but can generally be understood as our personal fears, worries, doubts, anxieties, or troubles. 

By handing them off to the Lord we are demonstrating trust in God that He is able and willing to deal with our concerns.

I hear some of you saying something similar to ( if not exactly as) ‘easier said, than  done’. True but “Becoming” as we have well established by now involves work. Sometimes arduous labor. Making deep commitments and then elevating that dedication to the level of covenants.

Now that you have your prayer, use it. Read it, memorize it, call out morning, non and night. If not, see yesterday’s post. So together we can move forward with the following question:

Have you ever felt weighed down by your past?

Of course you have. We all have. The good news is we don’t have to keep that weight. 

If your past is holding you back from co-creating a life you truly love. Let it go.

The past not your dreams and desires. By learning how to release the past hurts, shame, guilt, grief or even times of despair, you are helping to rescue yourself from a life of resentment, or a false attitude that you really don’t deserve anything better.

These kinds of pain can be difficult to release. Nonetheless it can be done. While we can never fully take away what happened, we can choose to survive and go beyond by thriving.  Life is far less about what has happened to you, it is principally about how you decide to respond to it.

You can not create a state of “Becoming”, if you aren’t willing to let the former or current  realities go. Are you ready to do some releasing?

It’s something we have all had to ask ourselves, multiple times. Some more than others, but nonetheless it is simply a part of the human condition.When we suffer emotional pain, how do you let go of the past and move on?

First you need to accept that it is a conscious decision. One that involves taking action. Holding on to the past is just like letting go and moving forward you decide . It’s your choice. Once you make the decision then you take action to make it happen. 

To me it seems the best way  to heal is by learning a lesson from the situation, then using it to be “Becoming”.  Channel your thoughts, intentions, desires and energies into focusing on growth and building that momentum that moves both forward and upward. 

Do not get stuck in the “coulda, woulda, shoulda” mentality. Hanging onto to what should have happened, what could have happened, or what you wished would have happened, give yourself motivation to get over it. Release it and heal. Or keep a grip on it and be paralyzed; immobilized by feelings of pain and bad memories.

If you are telling yourself  you are ready to move on from a negative  experience, but still are  not sure how to get started, here are some steps to assist you in your releasing…

  1. Develop Positive Self Talk 

Those endless conversions that go on inside of you, and sometimes aloud when you think you’re alone are the starting line. How you talk to yourself can either help you move on or keep you bogged down.

One technique to improve your internal dialogue is to create a Reassuring, Reaffirming Mantra.

Instead of limiting yourself by thinking things like “Why me? Why did this happen to me!” Declare positive energy. Try something like,  “I am so fortunate to be “Becoming”. Finding this new positive path in life is good for me.”

  1. Practice Mindfulness

The most important moment in our lives, is the one we are currently experiencing. Make the most of it. Focusing on the present moment, tlessens the possibilities for a negative impact that either the past or future can have on us

  1. Be Kind To Yourself

We are all our own worst critics. Now is the best time to show yourself some kindness and compassion. Treat yourself like you would someone else. Nurture, be loving, and kind. The more you are able to let self-care become an automatic habitual response into your daily life, the more you are empowering yourself. (You go girl!) 

    4. Let your emotions flow freely

Do not keep things bottled up. Burying your feelings not only causes the pain to  remain, oftentimes it can increase and have negative physical effects on our bodies ( and minds) as well.  You are not the only one who has ever been afraid to face a negative or painful emotion, just realize you need to do it. Face your fears, breathe and let them pass through you. Do not allow them to define you. .

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    5. Foster Your Loving Circle

Yes it is a simple step, yet it is oh so powerful. Enlarging our circles of positive people helps to lighten your load, share the burdens and get you through a lot of pain.

No one is an island. You can not live life alone. Therefore you should not expect yourself to overcome hurts alone either. 

6.  Tell Yourself It’s Okay to Talk About “It”

When you’re dealing with painful emotions, it is important to allow yourself permission to talk about it.Some people are unable to release it, because they falsely believe they aren’t allowed to talk about it. Find a friend, pastor, support group or therapist who are patient and accepting.

7. Forgive and Forget

This is a vital part of “becoming”. Not only forgiving others for perceived wrongs, and asking for forgiveness from those you may have hurt but also forgiving yourself.

It is then, and only then, that you can let go of anger, guilt, shame, or any other feeling limiting your growth. Let it go. Face forward, look upward and you get busy moving on.

To let go of past hurts, you need to make the conscious decision to take control of the situation. However, this can take time and practice. Be kind to yourself as your practice refocusing how you see the situation, and celebrate the small victories you have.

The following is a great video I’ve come across that addresses many of the issues in releasing our pasts. I have no affiliation with Fearless Soul, but they do have a great presentation here:

I truly hope and pray that you have had a lovely week so far as you take steps on this path of “Becoming”. After you have some time to reflect and release tomorrow we’ll transform our focus toward receiving.

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