Welcome, In our conversation today we’ll share part five of our series on Turning Point Toosdays.
Our discussions on this particular day of the week focus around how we can create a catalyst for our own growth, development and who we are “Becoming Today”.
Last week, in “Turning Point Moments”, we talked about how we go about energizing ourselves in the moment?
First make the decision. Then use that thought to realign your attitude to not only being joyful but also to share that joy. Taking the action then opens you up to receiving new inspiration, direction, love and to receiving the life you are “Becoming”.
Then it’s time for a little exercise.
In order to properly work our A.B.B.s (Always Be Becoming), it all starts with focusing on and accentuating upon the positive. Surround yourself with positivity. Use your affirmations. Expand upon them. Express a positive attitude in your appearance, maybe you have clothes emblazoned with cheerful, forward-looking, empowered messages; wear them. It all helps to remind your mind where it should reside.
This workout should include the following practices:
Pay Attention To Your Thoughts
Develop Positive Self Talk
Speak Your Truth
Then you need to work on trusting. Not just saying you are open to it, rather actually putting your faith and beliefs in action by releasing control.
That requires quite a “Transformative Transition”.
Let’s agree to understand Transformative Transition as a period of life altering change. Fostering growth, unlocking new opportunities, learning new behaviors and coming into acceptance with new ways, attitudes and truths. It is a time in which we can choose to alter our realities for the better.
Sounds good to me.
So let’s build on these principles and consider another question in manifesting a turning point for you. Are you ready to fail?
Too many times we hear, see, and read messages, attempting to reinforce that failure is not allowed. That failing at something marks you for life as less than. Nothing could be further than the truth.
Failure is not only an option but as we’ll discuss it is also inevitable.
No human is perfect. No person is omnipotent. No matter how much they may believe it or desire for us to accept that they are.
You can not live life without making mistakes or screwing something up in one way or another.
Anyone who preaches otherwise is either making a mistake (and proving the point of today’s conversation), or suffering from severe delusions that require our prayers and their need to seek assistance and guidance.
Failing at a task or not reaching a goal in the predetermined time you intended does not define you as a failure. They are simply learning experiences, which if accepted as such can serve to bolster your confidence and reveal to you new ways, approaches, attitudes towards getting back on track and/or making necessary revisions.
Some of the greatest minds in modern history realized this.
As motivational czar Zig Ziglar noted, “Failure is an event, not a person. Yesterday ended last night”.
With that we now have this new day, with a fresh start to revitalize our ideas, revamp our approach and work again on the realization of our desires.
“In my experience, each failure contains the seeds of your next success — if you are willing to learn from it”. – Microsoft co-founder Paul Allen
We all will fail at some point in our life. These are learning experiences so we can do better next time. As long as you choose to accept them that way. If you opt to embrace defeat, then you are more than likely to repeat the same mistakes again. And sometimes again and again until you decide to take a different approach.
Albert Einstein noted, “I think and think for months and years. Ninety-nine times, the conclusion is false. The hundredth time I am right”.
His statement is testimony to the fact that failure is inevitable. Though it does not have to be a bad thing. Failure can be a powerful motivator.
It pushes us to keep on trying and do better. It may even show us just how close we are to success.
That is certainly how Thomas Edison viewed it. No stranger to multiple attempts on his nearly 1,100 inventions, he stated, “If we all did the things we are really capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.”
Further noting, “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up”. Plus, “We often miss opportunity because it’s dressed in overalls and looks like work”.
Beliefs he was not afraid to defend as when he admitted to reporters it took more than a few attempts to develop the first working light bulb, he responded to their attempts to label his work as a series of failures by boldly declaring, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Furthermore it’s not just in recent eras that the idea of failure as a motivator. The Bible contains many examples.
“Jeremiah, say this to the people of Judah: This is what the Lord says: You know if a man falls down, he gets up again. And if a man goes the wrong way, he turns around and comes back.” – Jeremiah 8:4
“The righteous may fall seven times but still get up, but the wicked will stumble into trouble.” – Proverbs 24:16
Many Biblical leaders suffered setbacks, but refused to dwell on them. Instead they learned from their mistakes determined to keep moving forward. They show that when you fail you get up and you try again, eventually you will get it right.
“Like a dog that returns to its vomit, a fool does the same foolish things again and again.” – Proverbs 26:11
“It was good for me to be afflicted so that I could learn Your statutes.” – Psalm 119:71
“Trust the Lord with all your heart, and don’t depend on your own understanding. Remember the Lord in all you do, and he will give you success.” – Proverbs 3:5-6
This is something the Lord has prepared us for:
2 Timothy 1:7 – “The Spirit God gave us does not make us afraid. His Spirit is a source of power and love and self-control.”
Isaiah 41:10 – “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.“
Philippians 4:13 – “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
These verses all exhibit attributes that many of today’s leaders and innovators have adopted to help fuel their individual and in some cases our collective success:
“Failure and invention are inseparable twins.” – Jeff Bezos
“I can accept failure. Everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” – Michael Jordan
“In a world that’s changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.” – Mark Zuckerberg
“If things are not failing, you are not innovating enough.” – Elon Musk
Everyone of these people at some point had to make the decision to seek a turning point, otherwise we would not know who they are.
Are you ready to choose to seek your catalyst? Is it time to take your chance?
What’s that Eloise? I see your hand up.
What if you fail?
There is no what if, about it.
At some point You will fail.
I have failed and we will again.
The key here is that we try and try again.
However giving us hope inspiration and the realization that when we do fail we are in good company:
Sigmund Freud was booed from the podium when he first presented his ideas to the scientific community of Europe. He didn’t run away in shame. Instead he returned to his office and kept on writing.
Albert Einstein was unable to speak until he was 4-years-old. His parents believed he was “sub-normal,” and a teacher described him as “mentally slow, unsociable, and adrift forever in foolish dreams.”
Plus Abraham Lincoln’s younger days were full of trial, error and learning how to overcome failure as well as self-doubt. He went to war as a captain and returned as a private.
Then he was a failure as a businessman. As a lawyer he was considered too impractical and temperamental to be a success.
He then decided to get involved in politics. Suffering defeat in his first try for the legislature, lost in his first attempt to be nominated for congress, was turned down when he applied to be commissioner of the General Land Office, defeated in the senatorial election of 1854, failed in his efforts for the vice-presidency in 1856, and also lost in the senatorial election of 1858.
Around that time, Honest Abe wrote to a friend, saying, “I am now the most miserable man living. If what I feel were equally distributed to the whole human family, there would not be one cheerful face on the earth”.
Two years later he was the first Republican ever elected President of the United States and helped heal the wounds of a divided nation. Without Lincoln realizing failure was an option none of us might be where we are today; which is Becoming who and what we always were intended to be.
Keep on trying. Never give up. Do not lose hope and never dwell on failure or mistakes. Forgive yourself and redirect your momentum forward and upward. That is the essence of our shared journey.
Failure only comes about when we try.
When we make an attempt. When we choose to step out of our comfort zone and realize that rewards can outweigh the risks.
In order to do so you need to embrace faith over fear.
You need to remember your daybreak is coming.
Your right time is coming.
With the dawning of a new day, you will find new ways of “Becoming”.
How will you know? What do you need to know? That’s a good place to start in our next segment in our series on Turning Point Toosdays.
In the meantime, I hope you choose to join us tomorrow as we’ll seek out wisdom and try to reside it here on our next edition of “Becoming Today”.