Throughout this week, we have focused on the concept of affirming ourselves. How and why this is important and even given exercises to help. On this edition of “Becoming Today”, we’ll recap and affirm those steps.
Turning Within, we can find our center. Balance. Ground and prepare to shift our momentum to the next level, moving both forward and upward. All year long we’ll share daily reminders about focusing within as we also continue our initial focus of what it means to be “Becoming Today”:
“Coming together as independent individuals, sharing a planet, and intentionally setting our combined focus on becoming the strongest, most empowered God-fearing women we can be; it is vital we set these objectives, hopes and shared visions in writing, to make them truly achievable and to hold each of us and the “we” accountable. “”Coming together as independent individuals, sharing a planet, and intentionally setting our combined focus on becoming the strongest, most empowered God-fearing women we can be; it is vital we set these objectives, hopes and shared visions in writing, to make them truly achievable and to hold each of us and the “we” accountable. “
In this year of 3.0, we will focus much on accountability both personally and as the groups we choose to associate with. It should be an interesting year, hopefully filled with growth and change.
So focusing on this, we’ve been discussing “Affirming From Within“.
The process of not only declaring and supporting ourselves, but also how we’ll arrive at creating our own specific affirmations to strengthen us along our daily paths.
So let’s start with the shared definitions. We’ll begin with the noun, affirmation:
- the action or process of affirming something or being affirmed.: “he nodded in affirmation” “an affirmation of basic human values”.
synonyms: assertion, declaration, statement, proclamation, pronouncement, attestation, assurance, oath, vow, swearing, avowal, guarantee, promise, certification, pledge, deposition, asseveration, averment, confirmation, ratification, endorsement, defense
- emotional support or encouragement.: “the lack of one or both parents’ affirmation leaves some children emotionally crippled”.
Plus there is also the action tense, the verb affirm:
- state as a fact; assert strongly and publicly.: “he affirmed the country’s commitment to peace” “he affirmed that she was, indeed, a good editor” “
synonyms: declare, state, assert, aver, proclaim, pronounce, attest, swear, avow, vow, guarantee, promise, certify, pledge, give one’s word, give an undertaking, asseverate
- offer (someone) emotional support or encouragement.: “there are five common ways parents fail to affirm their children” “good teachers know that students need to be both affirmed and challenged”.
So as you can see, an affirmation is more than just a catchy saying. It is you declaring an assertion of who you are and what you are “Becoming”.
The commonality in affirmations is that they need to start with the same two words, “I am”.
Two simple words can hold such power over our lives, internally and among the world. These two simple words give us power, direction and create focus. This week I’ll be referring to a great study on this concept, it’s the book by Joel Osteen entitled “Two Words That Will Change Your Life Today”.
In this simple easy to read and comprehend format I have found it to be a great resource, when working on my own affirmations or sitting others, like you, with developing our own personal, unique declarations.
Words have meaning; and those meanings combined with the tone and the intent behind them, become power. In making affirmations you are asserting who you are, what you are “Becoming” and the fact that no one ( or anything) will stop you or deny you.
This is a fact echoed by Joel Osteen in the book;
“Words have incredible power. Whenever we speak something – good or bad – we give life to it. Out loud, our thoughts and beliefs become entities of their own. Recognizing this allows you to harness that power and change your life. Take charge with two simple words: I am.”
Notice he did mention that the incredible power the meaning of the words you choose to speak work both ways; positively and negatively. So an important part of this exercise is to focus on the good. Improving your self-talk, coming from that place of positive self esteem, make the decision to select the right words and then put them into action.
He also speaks about the Scripture in Romans 4:17: As it is written:( “I have made thee a father of many nations”), in the presence of Him whom he believed, even God, who quickeneth the dead and calleth those things which are not, as though they were.
As Joel wrote, “ That simply means you shouldn’t talk about the way you are. Talk about the way you want to be. If you’re struggling in your finances don’t go around saying, ‘oh man business is so slow. The economy is so down. It’s never going to work out.” That’s calling the things that are as if they will always be that way. That’s just describing the situation. By Faith you have to say, I am blessed. I am successful. I am surrounded by God’s favor.”
As Pastor Joel shared in the book, “ If you are going to fulfill your destiny, you have to shake off the negative voices. Shake off the thoughts that are telling you, I am unable, I am unqualified. Don’t invite weakness. Don’t give intimidation an invitation.”
On Tuesday our conversation addressed “Why Affirming Affirms“.
To prepare yourself for today’s this discussion you must be fully accepting of who you are and where your momentum is aimed. As you know by now, I believe that momentum always needs to be both forward and upward!
Let go of all negative thoughts and release your subconscious to heal itself with new beliefs, foundations and visions which are positive and boldly declared as already taking place right here, right now.
Why should you do this? Keep reading and find out.
So let’s establish that affirmations are more than just positive statements. They also help you overcome self sabotaging attitudes and negative thoughts.By repeating them often, and truly believing the words you are vowing, then you can start to realize positive changes.
Some try to downplay their power, you’ll hear them claim, daily affirmations are ‘unrealistic’ or just ‘wishful thinking’. However research proves otherwise.
Academicians have proven, people in high-stress level environments who practice affirmations have lower stress levels and higher instances of success than those who don’t. The study I’ve linked to reveals that positive affirming improved problem-solving performance, suggesting important findings for how self-affirmation boosts achievement..
Just like the benefits of consistent, repetitive physical exercise, the muscles of the mind also benefit greatly from undertaking and committing to healthier actions.
Therapists have found that using positive repetitions can reprogram thinking patterns and over time, those who affirm do begin to think and act differently.
Reports also indicate the practice of daily affirmations have been used as clinical treatment for people suffering from low self-esteem and depression.
You can decide to use affirmations to improve any area of your life where you would like to see positive change. These can include but are not necessarily limited to :
- Boosting your self confidence.
- Overcoming negative emotions.
- Improving your self-esteem.
- Finding a dedicated focus.
The researchers agree that the power of affirmations comes from repeating them to yourself regularly. Sometimes not only daily, but often several times each and every day.
By midweek we found ourselves talking about, “Putting Affirmations Into Action“.
Embracing this affirmative action, we addressed these questions:
What are Daily Affirmations?
They are developed intensive exercises for our minds.
Research has proven that repeating affirmations improves the level of success for bringing our mind and our heart into alignment. They also eliminate negative and limiting beliefs and transform your comfort zone from a limited one keeping you trapped in mediocrity to a more expanded one where anything is possible; building positive momentum that is both forward and upward. They guide you to replace all those “I can’ts” with “I cans,” building confidence, boosting self esteem and catapulting you towards “Becoming”.
So how do they do all this?
Repetition of your daily affirmations allows for reminding your unconscious mind to remain focused on your goals, desires and the ultimate big picture. They also inspire the mind to seek and discover solutions to challenges that might initially appear as obstacles.
They also create higher levels of energy to fuel happiness, joy, appreciation, and gratitude which then allows for the right people, places and things necessary to achieve goals, to come to you. Removing limitations and strengthening resolve are important steps along this path we call “Becoming”.
Whether or not you realize it, you are probably already using affirmations, however most of them may not be positive. When you are affirming self critical defeatist thoughts like the following, you are bringing those experiences to you.
Stop saying things like:
- “Everything I eat goes straight to my ______”
- “Everyone is against me.”
- “No matter what I do, I will not succeed.”
So How Do We Create Positive Affirmations?
Good question. I’m so glad you asked. Here are some guidelines for creating effective affirming statements.
- Always start with the words “I am.” They are the two most powerful words in the English language and can change your life today.
- Always use the present tense.
- Always affirm what you want, not what you don’t want.
- Always keep it simple.
- Always be specific.
- Always make it a call to action. Affirming is moving forward and upward now, not last week or maybe, some day.
- Always involve your positive emotions
- Always make the declarations for yourself, not others.
Do you notice a pattern here?
Always. Yes Always follow these steps, follow the pattern and always be “Becoming”.
Now I’ll share some examples of affirmations created by implementing these steps.
“I am confident, my path is being revealed and I am “Becoming”.
“I am so happy and grateful that I am now celebrating having achieved my ideal weight of __________pounds.”
Now yes I use one much like this but no I’m not publicly revealing the number that fills in the blank, lol.
Some other affirming thoughts:
“I am attracting joy into my life, allowing me to live lovingly to all I encounter.”
“I am supported and loved by God . I am responsible for Co-Creating my destiny as reality.
“I am surrounded by abundance, making it possible for me to serve others by ___________”.
“ I am healthy, energetic and optimistic. I am an instrument for impacting change in _________________”.
I intentionally left some blanks for your mind to fill in, so you can start to exercise your “affirmation” muscles. So you can begin to adopt this one as your own, “I am affirming my vow to practice daily affirmations, so that I am truly committed to the path of always being Becoming”.
Thursday we began with another question, “Are You Feeling Affirmed?“
Also you had an assignment. I am confident you completed it with ease, grace and a flair for the life you are “Becoming”. In the sample affirmations I suggested as a working exercise, I intentionally left some blanks for your mind to fill in, so you can start to strengthen your “affirmation” muscles.
Now that you’ve got your warm up exercise complete, and your affirmation muscles have been stretched, let’s get busy “Becoming” affirmed.
When creating your affirmations, every word counts. Not only the spelling, also remember that even slight differences, like active tense, adjectives, empowering words can all have huge impacts on the returns. The choices you make in selecting every word can directly impact the results you get. Since your words literally have the power to create you must take the responsibility to invest in building the positive momentum of your affirmations. Remember I always believe our momentum in “Becoming” needs to be focused on forward and upward!
The following example is an affirmation I came across during a late night “surfing” session. In the interest of building momentum, focusing our direction and harnessing our power, let’s consider it as a shared learning activity:
“I will quit smoking with ease and joy, remembering the effects on my physical and mental health and preparing to live a longer life.”
Yes it is a call for you to take action. Yes it is a declarative assertion, a strong statement of intent. Yes it shows a rewarding aspect. However it is missing two key elements. Anyone?
Well first it does not begin with “I am”. Quite literally the number one and most important steps in the process. The two most powerful words in the English language, “I am” are the 2 Words that WILL Change Your Life Today.
Then they, the person who originally crafted the statement, noted they “are preparing” for the outcome. You should be affirming as the desired result is already the truth you are living.
So let’s help them along with a re-write:
I am no longer a smoker, having now filled myself with ease and joy knowing that my physical and emotional health are greatly improved allowing me to continue living a long, happy life.”
See the difference? Words have meanings. Those meanings become power.
Take some time now to begin rewriting your affirmations. Grow them, hen make sure to at least double check your words.
Remember to consider your feelings. Emotions empower. They add vitality, urgency and truth to your assertions.
Yesterday I went ahead and declared victory, trusting you’ve done the work, embraced yourselves and are now “Affirmed“.
As we continue creating and working on finalizing our Daily Affirmations here are some suggestions on how you can take yours to the next level. Transforming your transformation:
1. Affirm in the most important moment; this one, right now.
Your affirmation should always be in the present tense. Describe the situation you are seeking, your desired result and boldly declare it as already being true.
2. Be positive
Our subconscious mind ignore or block out the word “not”. So, get rid of it. Rather than writing “I am not afraid of sharing in public”, which gives us the message that you are afraid. Instead assert, “I am completely comfortable publicly sharing my thoughts below.”
3. Be concise
Shorter is better. Affirmations with fewer words are often easier to recall, especially in situations when you feel some stress. Rhyming makes your affirmations even more memorable.
For example, “I am in accord with the Lord!”
4. Include action
Affirm yourself as a person who takes action. You are your own action hero! Definitive Action manifests new results in our lives and opens us to further inspiration.
For example, “I am in accord “Becoming” with the Lord!”
5. Include a feeling word
Powerful affirmations include content and emotion. Content describes the specific outcome that you desire. Emotion gets to the heart of how you feel about that outcome. For a more potent affirmation, add both elements.
For example, “I am in accord and loving “Becoming” with the Lord!”
Simple differences? Not really. God is in the details. One word more, or less can be multiplied exponentially. Remember “Becoming” = All x ∞
As we continue tweaking, fine tuning, improving, growing, learning, “Becoming”! You can ( and will) immediately put into action as daily, consistent declarations of your new found truths. Go ahead and share them below, adding to the level of boldly declaring your new focus, intentions, aspirations and raising the volume on your receptivity of their success. As I step aside for today I affirm:
“ I am living expectantly eagerly anticipating our shared success.”
Our next step along our shared path will arrive come Monday when you affirm to join us for another week of “Becoming Today”.