Pausing To Reflect

Another week has come and gone already. So that means it’s time once again to look back at the week that was here on this edition of “Becoming Today”.

The week began with our conversation called “From Within: Becoming The Content of Our Character”, as we paused from our regular format to remember and reflect on the Reverend Dr Martin Luther King Jr. and how his “Dream” and visions can certainly help to strengthen and motivate ours.

Dr. KING: “….. I am not unmindful that some of you have come here out of great trials and tribulations. Some of you have come fresh from narrow jail cells. Some of you have come from areas where your quest for freedom left you battered by the storms of persecution and staggered by the winds of police brutality. You have been the veterans of creative suffering. Continue to work with the faith that unearned suffering is redemptive. … knowing that somehow this situation can and will be changed….”

Rochelle’s Note: This situation, moment, struggle, whatever it may be you are seeking to overcome can and will be changed. As long as you do the work. Quit procrastinating , make the decision and always take action towards “Becoming”.

On Tuesday, we continued our week with some eager anticipation, accepting that life is less about what happens to you, and more centered upon how you choose to respond to it.

In “Living For More“, we talked about how, in order to seek happiness we must decide to do so.

When you are feeling less than joyful, it’s a conscious decision for you to take the necessary action to foster the growth of Joy inside you. That’s where it resides. It’s not a destination, it’s more than an attitude. Joy is  power, a strength and a reward that exists within each of us. It’s our individual responsibility to nurture it , co-create it and share it.

It is through how we choose to react to obstacles, circumstances and life in general as to how we do or do not experience joy. No one can truly take it away from you. Only you can prevent yourself from experiencing it.

Joy is extremely important to overcoming tests and trials as well as on our path of “Becoming” as it is through joy that we lead ourselves out of the darkness, to aid us in finding our answers, solutions, authentic lives and to “Becoming” our destiny.

By midweek, we shifted our attention to, “Forget Fierce, Becoming Meek“.

Too often the world uses meek focusing on being submissive and equating that to being weak. However that couldn’t be further from the Truth. Yes Truth – with a capital “T”. 

In the Scriptures we learn about the strengths of being meek, and the rewards we can be expectant of for our obedience. 

In Matthew 5:5, you can read, “Blessed are the meek for they will inherit the earth”.

Taken from Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount, this verse is one of the Beatitudes. Simply defined beatitude as an extreme form of happiness. “The noun beatitude refers to a state of great joy. Being blessed, or at least feeling blessed, is often linked to beatitude.”

Beatitude comes to us from the Latin word beatus, defined as being both “happy” and “blessed.” In the Bible, the Beatitudes are a series of eight blessings.” Some sources indicate that in  he late 1950’s writer Jack Kerouac came up with the nickname “The Beat Generation” because he felt its members, referred to as “Beatniks”  were individuals seeking beatitude.

Jesus used the term meekness in the Beatitudes, as a description of those who were blessed, not those who were timid, weak or push overs. His use of the word was in line with the term-gentleness, and used as an impetus for trusting God to win the battle instead of taking extremes into our own hands to attempt to win on our own terms. 

The concept of being meek is often described as “strength under control”. 

Having the ability to temper our emotions, remain patient, steadfast in our faith and trust. Now that’s extremely bold behavior given some of the tests we face on a daily basis. 

That’s why I’m willing to declare that Meek is the new Bold.

Bold does not have to be loud, obnoxious or in their face. Bold can be realized, renewed, revitalized as being an active proponent of right. “Becoming” one who is willing to firmly stand their ground, with resolve, empowering the courage of conviction as our strength, supported by faithfulness and trust. 

It is no coincidence, ( since by now you may realize I do not believe there is such a thing as coincidence ), that forbearance is part of the definition of meekness. With emotions in check we can move forward and upward on our shared paths to “Becoming”.. By understanding that patient self-control, restraint and tolerance  all work together to strengthen our renewals, embolden our resolve for all to experience revival in our lives. 

On Thursday we gathered to discuss, “Intentions Empower”.

Words have meaning directly impacting actions and outcomes. And those actions can definitely affect how our words are either accepted or rejected. If you continually say things, and then don’t back them up, or brag about beliefs and then do not live them, those consistencies of inconsistencies will trump truth every time.

So I hear some of you murmuring, what does she mean by “Live What You Say”?

 I’m trying to convey that old expression: “Walk your talk”.

That not only should someone do as they say, but that we also must accept personal responsibility for keeping our words and actions in alignment. Balancing ourselves with clarity and truth in our statements and works. 

Some may be more familiar with the form of the phrase “talk the talk, walk the walk”. Still it is defined as a person should support what they say, not just with words, but also through action.

I know these witticisms are not new, but they have become part of our collective consciousness, traditional recitations, folkloric if you will, because they have stood the test of time. They transcend generations, cultures and even centuries. Some of them have been shared in English for hundreds of years.  According to The Library of Congress’ Phrase Finder, the first recorded written usage of the saying in the U.S. comes from the Mansfield (Ohio) News, in June 1921:

“Although he has no gilded medals upon his bosom, Howard Herring of the North American Watch company, walks the walk, and talks the talk of a hero today.”

Plus the thought processes and importance behind these sayings goes back a whole lot further as in Scripture we find a multitude of references including: 

Matthew 5:16 (ESV) “In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” 

Titus 1:16 (ESV) “They profess to know God, but they deny him by their works. They are detestable, disobedient, unfit for any good work.”

Colossians 3:17 (ESV) “And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”

Then yesterday I asked, “Are You Giving It Your Due?” Motivated by an expression we don’t hear too much.

At least not unless I’m talking to myself.

With due diligence….”


When was the last time you heard it?

I know.

That’s why we’ll begin by drafting a common understanding of what it means.

“Careful, dedicated, persistence with intent to take action for the higher good, for the benefit of all. It is with steadfast forbearance and patience that we commit to be dedicated to not only doing no harm, rather to also do all things virtuously, fully and regularly in faith”.

Or let me offer a simpler statement:

“Always work to ensure you are trying to do  what is right. Be tenacious and purposeful about it and seek to be “Becoming” in all things”. 

When should we be choosing to act with Dedication To Diligence?


This year, our ongoing focus is “From Within“.

Turning within, we can find our center. Balance. Ground and prepare to shift our momentum to the next level, moving both forward and upward. All year long we’ll share daily reminders about focusing within as we also continue our initial focus of what it means to be “Becoming Today”:

Coming together as independent individuals, sharing a planet, and intentionally setting our combined focus on becoming the strongest, most empowered God-fearing women we can be; it is vital we set these objectives, hopes and shared visions in writing, to make them truly achievable and to hold each of us and the “we” accountable. “”Coming together as independent individuals, sharing a planet, and intentionally setting our combined focus on becoming the strongest, most empowered God-fearing women we can be; it is vital we set these objectives, hopes and shared visions in writing, to make them truly achievable and to hold each of us and the “we” accountable. 

In this year of 3.0, we will focus much on accountability both personally and as the groups we choose to associate with. It should be an interesting year, hopefully filled with growth and change.

We’ll talk more about that come Monday on our next edition of “Becoming Today”.

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