Lenten Letters: False Beliefs

As I continue on with this focus on releasing and healing, I want to remind why I’ve undertaken this process. 

Even in secular culture the idea of giving something up for Lent has increased in practice in recent years. Though without the deep spiritual connection it seems many of the promises of giving something up, fail just as quickly as New Year’s resolutions do.

The thought behind giving up things as simple as chocolate or practicing temporary dietary restrictions on certain days  is that when you deny yourself those things, your thoughts will be refocused on Jesus.

Over the past several years I have stepped back from the idea, feeling I didn’t want to partake in something that had devolved into a show rather than an action. 

However this year, it has been put upon my heart to deeply explore this Lenten season with a focus on forgiveness and becoming more penitent. 

It is my intention to let the Spirit guide me into identifying the area of need, and then seeking resolution and support for them. In releasing the ties that bind, I know that growth and healing will follow. My goal is that it will refresh my perspective and lead me to my own series of resurrections along our shared path of “Becoming Today”.

Today I’m needing to let go of some wrong opinions, to give up false beliefs about myself…

Dear Rochelle,

It’s okay to hurt for a little while and I certainly know that during the  past six months you have outlasted more than your fair share of pain. You have done an amazing job of moving forward despite it all, of managing what you can of circumstances and surrendering the rest.

Yet still you are struggling. Feeling a weight of oppression from some at times crippling thoughts. Ones that are not based in reality and ones I realize that you don’t accept as valid. I want to do as much as I can to help you though as we both know only you can prevent these false beliefs from taking hold.

We know that negative self-esteem can impact every aspect  of your life, including relationships, jobs and your health.The good news is you can correct your false beliefs about yourself.

Allow me to refresh your memory of some of your teachings and guidance you have shared over the years.

Think about the situations that deflate your self-esteem. Identify the triggers.  I think for you much of this current struggle has come  from a major change in life circumstances.

Pay attention to your thoughts.This includes self-talk and your interpretation of what the situation means. Ask yourself if this belief is true?  Would you say it to a friend? If not, then don’t say it to yourself.

Challenge your negative thinking. Often these false perceptions are just opinions devoid of any truth.  Make sure you are not getting involved in patterns of self delusion or accepting falsehoods as the truth.

Don’t mistake feelings for facts. Do not confuse feelings or beliefs as factual evidence. For example, “I feel like a loser, so I’ll always be a loser.”

Take ownership of your thoughts. Rather than being overwhelmed by negativity, acknowledge its presence. Accept it, then choose to empower yourself. Look at the reality and declare it will be no more. 

Take care of yourself.  Self care not only of the mind, but also the body and soul.

Use positive affirming statements. Treat yourself lovingly and always be encouraging.

Forgive yourself.  When you’ve made a mistake or are not on track to complete a goal, remember it’s not permanent. You need to readjust to move past that moment in time and create the next in abundance. 

Once you readjust your thoughts., aligning them with your essential beliefs, then focusing on the positive is “Becoming” much easier.  Consider lessons learned. Plan to avoid falling into the same traps or diversions again. 

Reward yourself. Acknowledge gains made. Give yourself credit for positive changes. Do the work involved and you will feel better because positive self esteem will firmly take root. 

I hope these reminders are helpful. Remember also as you told me, “in releasing the ties that bind, I know that growth and healing will follow”.

Work the steps and if you need to talk more about it, I’m always here for you.

Smile please,


How are your reflections going? Have you been deciding to give something up at this time? Making progress or seeking input? 

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Think about it. Pray about it. Meditate on it. Consider it and take some time to enjoy your day. Then we hope you decide to join us tomorrow for our next edition of “Becoming Today”. 


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