Lenten Letters: Trifling

That may be a topic you did not expect me to bring up. Especially overseas, as I have just learned that a trifle there is defined as “an English dessert made from a mixture of thick custard, fruit, sponge cake, jelly and whipped cream”.

No, I’m not giving up baking pastries, because from where I sit, trifle is understood as something very different: as in “acting as if things are of little consequence”, or minimizing importance and wasting time.

So taking lessons learned from “Hesitation” and “Procrastination”, there is no moment better than now to get started on my latest lesson in “Releasing”, on this edition of “Becoming Today”. 

Hello Rochelle, 

I’ve been meaning to get back to you on this topic for a while, however it seems like time has really sped up. The past few weeks have flown by and I can’t believe that you are already examining your 12th issue to give up for Lent.

First let me say you’ve done a really good job of staying on top of things and I know you are seeing some results. Yet I also realize that you are dealing with a bit of a lingering concern. One of those that just seems to nag at you. Creep up on you and try to shut you down. 

You have always been a master at time management. For decades you were the queen of multi-tasking and were able to deliver meaningful results in all efforts. Yet now I see the frustration that you are feeling, perceiving some days to just be a struggle to get a few tasks done. 

Allow me to congratulate you, because despite the unforeseen circumstances you were thrust into, forcibly, and still you have somehow managed to get out of bed everyday. That must have not been easy at times. So celebrate yourself for continuing to make an effort and seek results in face of adversity.

Your battle to outlast situations that some can still not comprehend and your resilience to keep knocking on all those doors that slam shut in your face are a testament to your courage, determination and strength. 

Still you feel as if you are trifling. Not moving fast enough. Think you are not practicing enough self discipline and seeking motivation to help you press on.

Perhaps you need to reconsider your belief that you are trifling. Continue to address your issues with “Self Criticism” and overcoming “Discouragement”. Because I know you can do this.

You are more than able to transform yourself by changing your unacceptable practices and continue adopting new methods of living. Shift your perspective and refocus beyond the circumstances to see that you are truly becoming today.

You’ve got this.



These letters and holding myself [publicly accountable through them has indeed been helping me. The results may not be immediate but the seeds are planted and progress should be on track to bloom by Easter. To see a rebirth. My own resurrection. I feel I believe it and I am remaining unconditionally faithful. 

I pray for each of you everyday and remain hopeful your steps are progressing well. Like all things in your life your participation is required and it is never too late to start. So I will continue to invite you to participate in your own Lenten Letters, in your own style.

Whether in a journal, a document, video diary or scribbled on the back of  a receipt just select whatever form you feel most comfortable with.  Plus just because I’ll be doing them daily, you don’t need to, just set your own standards and goals as for the frequency.

You could also opt  to share your thoughts and suggestions in the comments section. Which if you’re on the website follows below. Or if you’re a daily subscriber, you can click on the headline at the beginning of the conversation and be taken.

Also if you’d like to raise questions or share in a less public manner, you can always send a message through our Contact page. 

Think about it. Pray about it. Meditate on it. Consider it and then decide to join us tomorrow on our next edition of “Becoming Today”. 


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